“Sex As It Is Intended To Be”
Song Of Solomon 3:5-5:1
Sermon Series: “GodLoveSex”
Introduction: We do not lack for information about sex in our culture today. In fact, we are inundated with it. However, the problem is that most of what we hear is wrong. We desperately need God’s truth in this area of life. The goal for this message is for us to have biblical convictions and a godly attitude toward sex that we apply in our actions. We need to see sex as a gift from God and not treat it as a god that controls our lives or view it as gross through warped religious beliefs or bad experiences with it. 3:6-11 details their wedding and then 4:1-5:1 gives us a window into their honeymoon and paints a picture of God’s design for sex.
So, sex as it is intended to be…
1. Is exclusively reserved for marriage (3:5, 4:12-5:1). We see that they waited until after their wedding to consummate their relationship. Hebrews 13:4 says, “Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed [bed is a euphemism for sex] undefiled…” Sex in and of itself is a beautiful and holy gift from God. It is not taking something dirty and making it holy by placing it in marriage, but it is taking something holy and defiling it by using it outside of marriage. Here is God’s wisdom on the matter:
A. God’s Pattern (Genesis 2:24)
B. God’s Purpose (Genesis 2:25)
C. God’s Protection (Proverbs 5:15-23)
D. God’s Love (5:1)
2. Is both passionate and pure. They are engaging with one another freely and passionately, but the text affirms it as completely pure and approved by God because they are physically acting out the covenant commitment they made in marriage.
3. Is for building up your spouse.
A. Sexual intimacy is to be an overflow of relational intimacy.
B. Focus on your spouse’s needs first.
C. Communication is crucial.
4. Is ultimately about God. At the end of verse 1 of chapter 5, God speaks and affirms the consummation of the marriage.
A. God created marriage and sex, and He created sex for marriage and marriage for sex.
B. Everything is in His view, and we answer to Him for all things, including our sexual activity.
C. Everything, including sex, is to be for the honor and glory of God.
D. We honor God by honoring one another sexually, and we dishonor God by dishonoring one another sexually (1 Thessalonians 4:1-8).
E. We are either glorifying God or sinning against God in our sexuality.
F. God heartily approves of a married couple enjoying each other sexually (5:1, 1 Corinthians 7:1-9).
G. We can be forgiven and delivered from our (sexual) past through the finish work of Jesus (1 Corinthians 6:9-11).
Conclusion-Recommended Resources: Helpful book for married couples are, “The Act of Marriage,” by Tim and Beverly LaHaye, and “Intended For Pleasure,” by Dr. Ed Wheat. I would also recommend “Passport 2 Purity” as a resource to use in discussing this with your kids. “Every Man’s Battle” and “Sexual Detox” are recommended resources if you are dealing with pornography. On our website, there is a message in the “Chains” series that deals with pornography, a whole series about sex and issues related to it called “Flesh,” and a message in the “Modern Family” series entitled, “Sexology,” that is basically a biblical theology of sex.
